I hope it’s okay to tell this story. I think it’s sweet, but I have a questionable opinion. Anyways:
So while I was growing up, my Aunt Susan was the “fun” aunt. As a kid, I didn’t realize that. She was just Aunt Susan. She was younger then my dad, rode a motorcycle, had a big sheep dog named Buddy, and had roommates. On of the things that had always bothered me about my father’s sibling though, was that they weren’t producing any cousins for me to play with. Uncle Scott was married to Aunt Patty, but no kids, and they lived in New York anyways. Aunt Sheri and Aunt Susan were not married, and so no cousins. Other then that, I loved my aunts and uncles without question.
As I, and my aunts, grew older, the odds of having cousins were decreasing, and I knew this. Luckily, Aunt Sheri got married, and soon came Corey. Aunt Susan on the other hand, still just had her roommates. Something I associated with college and younger adults. Queries to my parents on the matter yield nebulous answers.
Then, the summer before my freshman year of high school (summer ’94) my Aunt celebrated her, well, her, um...it was a significant birthday. So Sally, my aunt’s roommate at the time, threw a big surprise birthday for Aunt Susan. She was surprised, there were lots of people, good food, plenty to drink, a pool to swim in, the hole nine yards. My extended family, and some of my aunt’s old roommates whom I had grown up knowing, where there. And while I realized there were a lot of women with short or different haircuts, I didn’t think much of it. I was almost 14, and disappointed there weren’t more cute girls my age to look out.
But soon I overheard my grandfather make a comment about “all the couples” at the party. I immediately though “but there are mostly women here”. Then, I looked around, noticed all the women standing strangely close to other women, noticed the short haircuts on these women, and added in my newly found cultural awareness from the early ’90. And it was then, that I realized that Aunt Susan’s “roommates” were more then just roommates :-)
Now I love this story for two reasons. The first, is how absolutely oblivious I can be to something that, perhaps to other people, is completely obvious. Much more importantly, it illustrates how open minded and accepting children are. You tell them “roommate” or “good friend” and a child will say, “Okay” and the child’s world is expanded. You tell a child “sinner” or “diseased person” and the child’s world is closed off, surrounded my fear and ignorance.
That is a horrific thing to do to a child. That is horrific thing to teach a child about other human beings. The spreading of fear and ignorance is blight upon the world.
So, to honor my aunts, my older sister, friends I grew up with, a former housemate, numerous people I know, and a very dear friend of mine, I finally attended a Pride event. Nearly ten years after realizing how close I was to this community I finally made it a priority to openly support them. It was a blast.
Tony, my former housemate, took me to a couple of
gay bars, bought me some gin with a splash of tonic, and showed me the madness of Volunteer Park during
Pride weekend. It was great. Check out the
pictures.